Christians are, generally, horrible to do business with. Why? We believe we’re entitled to more for less. We think we have some kind of obligation to get “the hook up” because the person or company we’re doing business with is our “brother or sister in Christ.” What foolishness is that?
Are you telling me, because we hold similar beliefs, I should give you a lower price for the services or goods I’m providing to the general population? SoI should charge “extra to those who may disagree with my point of view? What kind of sense does that make?
Would we ask for a discount based upon our political affiliation? “Yeah, fellow Democrat, hook a Democrat up!” Or perhaps because we’re both left-handed? Or we have the same views on abortion? Continue reading
Note: The views and opinions expressed herein may not be logical and/or follow any sound reasoning whatsoever. I’m just giving you a heads up as to how I operate, for better or for worse, so that in your dealings with me, you don’t get your feelings hurt. I’m sure many will ignore the warning, but I’m just doing my part.
Let me explain how I categorize the women in my life. You’re either a friend or your my girlfriend. If you’re not my girlfriend, you’re a friend. It’s that simple.
If you’re a friend, I may be attracted to you, feeling to you, or crushing on you, but until I TELL you something, you’re still just a friend. We may hang out on the regular and talk frequently but unless I have stated my intentions, don’t think there are any to pursue a relationship. I may just want to have fun.
If you don’t like to have fun, you may not want to be friends with me. It would be a shame not to have you as a friend, but if you’re going to bring around drama and foolishness thanks to your assumptions of where our relationship stands, I think I’ll be alright. Continue reading
After my previous post, “Only ONE Girl in the World” I had a few people say, “What if you’re wife wasn’t a virgin?” I also read a blog I read entitled, “Can We Break the Double Standard?” in which the author made a comment that spoke to me. She said, “We don’t tell women I FORGIVE YOU for your past. We don’t ASK if there were any issues that perhaps led them to act that way. Instead, we just insult, name-call, and snub these women.”
I wrote this post as a letter to my future wife, if she may have a less than desirable past:
I will never say, “I don’t care about your past.” I do care about it. I want to know about your past and your history because I want to know you. What I will tell you instead is, “I care about you enough to realize that you past does not define you.”
Your past will only define you if you give it permission. It is your past. You own it. It has no power by itself; only the power you decide it has. You may never forget the past and it’s consequences. And while you can’t change what happened, you can change your future. Continue reading
Filed under: My Life..., Relationships, Think About It | Tags: choices, marriage, sex, virginity, wife
I don’t want to f*ck every girl in the world. I don’t want to f*ck 100 of them. Not 10. Not 2. I want to make love to the one woman I will spend the rest of my life with.
My wife.
No one else.
Not only is the idea of having intercourse with every female on the planet repulsive, it’s highly incestual. After realizing that every girl in the world includes, not only your mother, but your sisters and your daughters, I’m perplexed as to why anyone would enjoy those lyrics. Why not sing a song about rape? Or abusing and violating a 5 year old? Anyone for some sodomy perhaps? It could be the next big hit!
In a world filled with sexuality, sensuality and perverted images everywhere you turn, there are still people who have chosen the high road. We have chosen to be virgins. Yes, we’ve made the choice. Continue reading
Filed under: Mind Flush, My Life... | Tags: apology, God, honest, Jesus, life, prayer, real, sorry
This is not going to be pretty, well thought out, eloquent post. This is going to be a messy post. I’m just gonna talk to God and be entirely honest about where I am right now. I don’t expect your comments or applause. I just need to talk to God about my life. I thought you might be able to gain something by listening in so… Enjoy your eavesdropping.
God… I’m sorry. I haven’t depended on you. Especially not for the things I truly needed. I thought I could do it on my own. I feel like less of a man when I have to admit I need your help. But I do. God I need your help. I can’t do this thing called life by myself. As much as I want to say I did it, I know you are worthy of any shred of attention I could garner by myself. You alone are the reason I’m alive today, with a story to tell and a means by which to tell it!
Jesus, don’t let me be drawn my the applause and approval of men. Let me not entertain them & their frivolity. I want you to be pleased with me. I want to hear you say, “Well done.” Let me not play and cater to their ever changing whims. They will only take me further off course! Let me direct all praise back to You, for I have nothing in and of myself! You give me everything. Continue reading
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: change, culture, marriage, men, names, Relationships, submission, women
I believe when a man marries his wife, she should take his last name. Not retain hers. Not hyphen the 2 last names. Not combine the 2 last names and create a hybrid name. She should take his last name. If she so desires to hold onto hers she can use it as a middle name.
Taking a man’s name symbolizes the unity that you have created in a family. I says you are his wife. While the concept of women as property is outrageous and outdated, but the fact is this: The man is the leader and head of the household. The woman may (mistakenly) wear the pants, but God will ultimately hold the man accountable for what was done in his house. Even in choosing to let the woman run things, the man has the final say.
A wife who doesn’t have her husband’s name is not in full submission to him and to his authority. She also isn’t fully committed to the marriage. She is, in effect, saying to him, “I love you, but not enough to change my name. I’m excited about our future, but let me hold on to this piece of my past.”
Isn’t a name just a name? No, a name is so much more. Your family’s history, heritage, and reputation lie in their name. When I say Rockefeller, Kennedy, DeBeers, and Bush, you instantly have an idea of the family’s legacy; their beliefs, and their history. Continue reading
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: apology, chris brown, domestic violence, judge, rihanna, sorry
Yesterday, Chris Brown released a video statement apologizing for his assault on his then girlfriend, singer Rihanna. Because we all have the expertise of Sotomayor, America was quick to judge and to criticize, but I wanted to withhold my thoughts for a day. In case you haven’t seen it, you can watch it below.
Did he read off a script? Probably. When I have to make an apology, I always write down my thoughts beforehand. It helps me to makes sure I’ve included everything I want to say. It also ensures that I say what I mean to say. If he hadn’t read off a script people would be hollering, “He didn’t even care enough to take the time to write out an apology! He was just saying whatever!” You can’t please everyone. Writing the statement beforehand was the right thing.
Do I think he’s genuinely sorry? Yes. He said it with his words, and with his actions by staying out the the spotlight these last few months. I’m sure he probably regretted his actions as soon as it happened. I don’t think it was a premeditated beat down. It’s easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and made mistakes. It happens to me. It happens to you. Continue reading
Filed under: Think About It
Too often we find ourselves praying for the wrong things. We pray for stuff; physical, material things. Instead, we should pray for the ability, character, and integrity to be able to properly handle those physical blessings.
We pray, “Dear God, I need a new job. I need more money. I need a new car. I need a spouse. I need this. I need that. I need. I need. I need!”
Do you really? Would you know what you would do if God dropped those things in your lap tomorrow? Would you be prepared to handle the incredible wealth, the dream job, and the new spouse that you so naturally ask God for?
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