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Why I Fall In Love In Fall
September 30, 2009, 9:01 pm
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Fall is my favorite season of the year for one reason: the weather changes as it starts to get cooler. I thoroughly enjoy the nip in the air because it means I have the ability to integrate sweaters, layers, and jackets into the wardrobe; it just makes life so much more fun. But it can also make life a little more lonely if you don’t have a special *cough* friend *cough* in your life.

Fall also signifies the fact that the year’s end is drawing close. With the holidays looming near, the focus seems to shift from having carefree fun in the summa — summa — summertime onto the few holidays that are more traditionally reserved for the family. So what are the single folks — those who don’t have a typical family per se — to do? It’s time to find you a boo. At least that’s what I tend to do. Continue reading


My Respect For Her: Like a Tire With…
September 28, 2009, 1:17 pm
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Like a tire with a slow leak, my respect for her had dwindled.

Like a tire with a slow leak, my respect for her had dwindled.

Like A Tire With A Slow Leak

Do you still respect me?

The question seemed easy enough to answer. Yet I knew the answer, rather, the truth, would break her heart. And I knew I didn’t want to do that. So instead of telling her the truth, I did what any decent, self-respecting man with even a shred of common sense, intellect, and love for his own life would do: I lied. Okay, I didn’t really lie; I didn’t tell her something that wasn’t true. In fact, I didn’t tell her anything at all; I just redirected her question by asking another question.

“Have I done anything to show you that I don’t?” I inquired, hoping this “answer” would suffice. She pondered her response for a moment and said with something I, to this day, can’t remember; I just knew that I was off the hook. And that was all I needed to know. Continue reading

God, Where’s My Ram?
September 24, 2009, 8:38 pm
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"The Sacrifice of Isaac" painted in 1602 by Caravaggio

This post isn’t for everyone. Not right now anyway. Some people need to hear this now, some will need to hear it for later, because chances are that everyone has been, or will be, in one of those “If-God-doesn’t-come-through-I’m-done-because-I-don’t-know-what-to-do” situations. Those situations push our faith and trust in God to the limit. They cause us to wonder, “When is God going to come through for me? Why hasn’t He come through yet?” I’ve recently, and honestly, still am in this situation. What I’m about to tell you is something God shared with me.

God will come through for you. Absolutely. It’s of paramount importance that you understand that He has a “ram in the bush” waiting for you. Don’t ever doubt that. But if he hasn’t shown it to you just yet, perhaps He’s waiting until He sees that you’re ready to do without it. Continue reading

Uh… Your Hair: A Letter to the Ladies
September 23, 2009, 12:52 pm
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When single people are talking about what they’re attracted to in a mate, there will, inevitably, be talk of hair. Now, some of you may be “looking at me” thinking, “You mean blonde or brunette?” Not quite. Yes, that’s a conversation too, but I’m referring more specifically to weaves, pieces, wigs, short, long, relaxed, locs, twists, natural, etc. I would say that this conversation would be geared more towards the Black women of the world, but as Kim from the Real Housewives of Atlanta, along with countless other White women have shown us, fake hair is no longer worn exclusively Blacks. Continue reading

Secular Songs In A Sermon?
September 22, 2009, 8:45 am
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There are a lot of people who believe that you should, under no circumstances, bring secular music into the church. But some would vehemently disagree. Secular music can be used to glorify Christ just as much as the music we label as “praise and worship” or “Christian.” That may sound very opposite of what you’d expect, but what is it that makes music secular? What makes it “Christian” or sacred? Certainly it’s not the music itself; how can certain chords or keys be construed as glorifying God more than others? If it’s not the music, than it has to be the words. Take a love song — one that you might sing to your spouse at your wedding — sung to God, is that not worship? Don’t plenty of “Christian” songs sing about our love of and for Jesus? Where does the difference lie? Continue reading

Thoughts on Tonex
September 12, 2009, 8:19 am
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Recently gospel, or secular, or whatever you want to classify him as, artist Tonex gave an interesting interview on “The Lexi Show” about his life and a the controversy surrounding his life and the allegations of homosexuality. I feel like the interview left a lot to be desired, but I’ve included the clips below so you can judge for yourself. It’s about 25 minutes of video, but it’s very intriguing to watch. Take a look.


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Just Journaling Tonight
September 11, 2009, 12:40 am
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Today I don’t really have anything too deep or insightful or controversial. I just wanted to write a little bit about what I feel like God has been doing in my life. This is more of a journal entry than you’ve seen me do in a while, perhaps. Just as a heads up: I’m going to be intentionally vague about specific names because I don’t think that they necessarily add anything to the story.

I guess I have some uncertainty, as we all do from time to time, or perhaps more often than periodically, about what exactly it is that God’s doing. I feel like He’s behind the scenes, moving things around, getting some stuff ready, but for what, I don’t know yet. I feel like there have been several statement that people have made, several hints that really struck a chord. You ever had a few completely random people mention the same thing to you at completely different times? That’s happened a few times lately. It’s very interesting because what they’re mentioning wasn’t really something I thought I would be doing, but I can see how God could use that as a part of my calling. Continue reading