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If I Can’t Talk To Twitter, Who Can I Talk To?
October 30, 2009, 3:56 pm
Filed under: My Life..., Relationships

dreamstime_3516008_boys_telling_secretsIt should come as no surprise to those who know me that I use Twitter and Facebook as my relationship therapist on occasion. I tell them — more-so Twitter than Facebook, because, well, sometimes Facebook gets more in my business than I prefer — about a date I’ve gone on, or am going on, or perhaps about a young lady that I might have just met, or have a particular interest in. They give me advice when I’m confused about an issue and what ramifications a decision might have, as well as the best way to resolve conflict. They’re really great.

Yet I have recently encountered a problem. The problem is this: there has been a transition, in at least a few cases, where the females that I would want to talk about are on Twitter (and follow me) and are perhaps on Facebook as well, thus making it more awkward for me to talk about them like I don’t know that they’ll see everything I right. Continue reading


When Christians Shouldn’t Quote The Bible
October 30, 2009, 9:00 am
Filed under: Uncategorized


There are entirely too many dumb Christians on the loose today. Entirely too many. Yes, on the loose. Running around, causing problems.

Dumb Christians? Yes. There are Christians that, not only don’t know what they believe, but don’t know how to rationalize or defend their beliefs with anything other than scriptures or what they heard at church. And this is a problem. Because it makes Christians, as a whole, and our faith, look incredibly foolish and baseless when in fact, the very opposite is true. Christian faith can be easily and logically be explained, even without using Scripture. There are, obviously, a few exceptions, but the basic truths and principles for living can be articulated without reading directly from the Word. Continue reading

Our Acceptance of America’s Ample Individuals
October 27, 2009, 10:10 am
Filed under: Uncategorized


Recently, I read an article in the Huffington Post about Club Bounce. It’s a club in California that caters specifically to the over weight crowd. And while I’m incredibly tempted to make so many jokes here, I’ll just laugh on the inside instead of getting stoned.

This made me think back to the network television show, “More to Love” (which some on Twitter affectionately nicknamed “The Fatchelor”), which aired last season. The concept was a dating show; a “larger than life” version of “The Bachelor” with a hefty man out looking for love. All the contestants, of course, were also overweight. (While I won’t go into the hundreds of sidebar topics I could here, it was interesting to note that it seemed the producers consistently gave the ladies challenges that would seemingly bring back their worst childhood memories as a fat kid — swimming pool, sports, prom, etc.)

Are we, as a country, too accepting of fat people? Do we, for the sake of political correctness, not confront people’s issues and unhealthy habits? Would we rather gloss over the uncomfortable topics and turn a blind eye as our friends and family eat themselves into disease and even an early death? Continue reading

Removing the “You Met Online?” Stigma
October 23, 2009, 10:10 am
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: , , ,

With the popularity of Twitter, Facebook, and other social media networks on the steady rise, the once highly stigmatized phrase, “we met online,” has become more widely accepted.

And while, it’s not quite the “social norm,” just yet — at least for those who don’t tweet (I mention Twitter mainly because people on Facebook normally know each other, but Twitter allows for more networking with strangers) — it’s surely gained black_dating_385x261more acceptance than it had 3 or 4 years ago. That was the time when the only people who met online were desperate people who used online dating sites and MySpace to hook up.

I recently had a friend — who is not on Twitter — ask me if I had ever met anyone I interact with on Twitter. I looked at her like she was crazy. Of course I have! (In fact, just yesterday, I had lunch with a friend who I met on Twitter.) Continue reading

Slavery Is Alive and Well in America
October 22, 2009, 10:10 am
Filed under: Think About It

While many Americans believe that the Thirteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, which states that, “neither slavery nor involuntary servitude… shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction,” effectively ended slavery in America, there is plenty of evidence to the contrary. Slavery is not only alive and well, bslave cellsut it is practiced and, in fact, celebrated all over the country, nearly every night of the week — especially on weekends. That’s right — the practice of rich Whites owning and utilizing Blacks for profit and personal gain is still flourishing, even in a alleged “post-racial” America. Although modern day slaves make substantially more money, even than the majority of the population, they are cut off from their people using a method referred to as “the Conveyor Belt,” a system that is in many ways comparable to the Middle Passage, and forced to work on the plantation for the profit of the White man. Who are these supposed slaves? They are professional Black athletes.

First, we should clarify the meaning behind the word, “slave.” The American Heritage Dictionary defines a slave as, “a person who is the property of and wholly subject to another.” Another definition clarifies that, “slaves can be held against their will from the time of their capture, purchase or birth, and deprived of the right to leave, to refuse to work, or to receive compensation.” Between those 2 definitions there exists a comprehensive definition and idea of what it would mean to be a slave. Continue reading

I’m a Crush Slut
October 21, 2009, 11:35 am
Filed under: Relationships

CokeCanCrushedTwitter is notorious for being nosy (and that’s one of the reasons I love it) and it’s trending topics never fail to amaze me. Recently, a trending topic about crushes caught my attention… #Igottacrushon.

Ah, crushes. I won’t go into reminiscing about having crushes “back in the day” because I still have crushes today. Yep… I have a couple of crushes right now. Today.

See, I’m the type of person to have a few crushes going on at the same time, but no one will ever know. I’m very private in that way — I normally don’t voice any interest about someone to anyone else unless I’m sure that I want to follow through with that interest. So if you’re someone that I’ve voiced an interest in or about (maybe not to you, but to someone else, you are in the minority — perhaps in more ways than one) and if by some random chance, you know who you are, count yourself as privileged. Because not everyone is talked about by me. Ok, I talk about a lot of people, but not in that way. Continue reading

I’m Protesting the Christian’s Protests
October 14, 2009, 2:56 pm
Filed under: Stories, Think About It | Tags: , , , , ,

Walking through the “yard” (I use the quotes because I don’t know how much of a yard it can be without any grass) at GSU today there was some kind of rally/protest going on. It was kind of exciting being that it was my first in college, but certainly it wont be my last. Amidst the people I could see huge signs saying all kinds of things about what God hates and judgment and the like. Then on the other side I noticed people waving the rainbow equality flag and holding up signs about homosexuality and being treated fairly. As soon as I realized they were “my people” (as in Christians) I was a little disgusted. And honestly a little embarrassed too.

I only had one thought: Is that was Jesus would do? Would Jesus hold a protest and tell people all the things that were wrong with them? Continue reading