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Why I Fall In Love In Fall
September 30, 2009, 9:01 pm
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Fall is my favorite season of the year for one reason: the weather changes as it starts to get cooler. I thoroughly enjoy the nip in the air because it means I have the ability to integrate sweaters, layers, and jackets into the wardrobe; it just makes life so much more fun. But it can also make life a little more lonely if you don’t have a special *cough* friend *cough* in your life.

Fall also signifies the fact that the year’s end is drawing close. With the holidays looming near, the focus seems to shift from having carefree fun in the summa — summa — summertime onto the few holidays that are more traditionally reserved for the family. So what are the single folks — those who don’t have a typical family per se — to do? It’s time to find you a boo. At least that’s what I tend to do.

I don’t know if it’s the chill in the air — that fresh crispness — which makes my body want to find someone to help keep me warm. It could be the impending holiday season that make me a little more observant of the females in my life. Perhaps it was the experience of having a great relationship, with one of the first girls I fell for, during this time of year that makes me want another. I don’t know. But I do know this — when the Fall rolls around, I feel more of an urge to get “boo-ed up” than any other time during the year.

For some, it’s springtime, the time when it gets warmer and the flowers are in bloom, when they like to find a new “friend.” For some it’s the summertime when all the ladies are parading around in dressed that resemble — be it ever so slightly — a bed sheet wrapped around them and the air is warm and the skin is exposed. Not so for me. If I fall in love, it’s likely in the Fall. And I also know that if I don’t have anyone particularly special in my life, the season seems more depressing — I know because I felt this funk last year.

Whether you want to admit it or not, you know the holidays are always better spend in the company of someone you enjoy. You can act like you don’t know what I’m talking about, but don’t come crying when you don’t have a date to the Christmas parties. You know it’s better to have someone to hold hands with as you walk through the mall on the day after Thanksgiving — if you’re adventurous enough to venture out then — as you shop for Christmas presents. Or maybe it’s because we like to eat heartier foods and tend to stay at home more when it’s cold — and that’s always better with someone to cozy up next to, right?

Let me be honest here — this “boo” relationship doesn’t even have to be as serious as a girlfriend. It could just be a friend that I hang out with on the regular. A friend with “seasonal benefits” if you will. Just someone to chat with and enjoy until the new year rolls around. We can part ways in January, if that’s beneficial for us, but I just want someone to spend October, November, and December with.

Maybe it’s a societal idea that having a significant other for the Holidays make life more exciting and fulfilling; maybe it’s just me (and a few people I know who would agree) who think that. Either way, this is the reality of my love life in Autumn: I want a boo and I’m not afraid to admit it. That, however, doesn’t mean I’m settling for anyone — don’t get it twisted. I won’t be with just anyone strictly because it’s getting colder. No, she must be someone I could be with through any, and all the other seasons. Just because it’s Fall, my standards don’t fall.

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Thanks for that. I totally know where you are coming from. And it doesn’t seem to get any better especially if you are a single parent like myself. Although I have plenty of family around to share in those precious moments with my son, having a S.O. would be a really nice addition!

Comment by Cj

I’ve agreed with some of the points you’ve made in your other posts, and I actually enjoy reading your blog. I must say that I do not agree with the notion of friends with “seasonal” benefits. It’s too self-serving.

I hope you take this in the right way. It sounds like you’re right on the path to having another “flat tire” situation. The idea that we enter into “friendships” for the purpose of satisfying our own loneliness is a concept that I would say does not satisfy the Father. Someone in this “friendship” (if it qualifies for the term) will always get the short end of the stick. Relationship is about covenant not frivolousness. Women are your sisters in Christ not your masking tape or temporary loneliness bandage. I really hope you think about this some more…user or friend…brother or every other guy with selfish intentions.

Comment by TP

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