Filed under: Relationships | Tags: dating, engagement, love, men, Relationships, rings, wedding, women
When I see a woman for the first time, there are three things that I immediately look at: her face, her shoes, and her left ring finger — in that order. Overall physique and body type is important, but, I’ll get to that as I move from her face to her shoes and over to her ring finger. Why the ring finger? There’s no use thinking about anything further if her finger is occupied with a wedding (or even engagement) ring, is there?
Lately I’ve noticed that many women wear other types of rings on their left ring finger — the finger where people usually wear a wedding band. However, these rings don’t signify any commitment to another person, something a wedding/engagement ring does, and, in fact, can serve to confuse interested single men.
I have seen this technique used to one’s advantage, though. I have a good female friend who is single and travels about three weeks out of any given month. She’s open to dating, but it’s certainly not her top priority. In order to keep away random guys who try to approach her, — because, believe me, they do (and I can’t blame them) — she wears an engagement ring. It’s a nice one too. Of course, it’s not real, but a man who would approach her in the airport wouldn’t notice — especially since most men don’t have good sense in jewelry and it’s authenticity. (more…)
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: dating, love, men, Relationships, women
In my last post, “Manolos Vs. Maddens: A Lesson About Why Men Don’t Pursue,” I dealt with the question of why some men just don’t pursue to numerous quality women that are in their lives. I won’t repeat the entire article, but essentially the point was this — why pursue when you don’t have to?
However, I know some women probably read that and said, “We’re in the 21st century, why do I need to wait for a man to pursue me? I’m gonna get my man for myself. I’m not waiting on him.”
And I can understand their point. We do live in times that are culturally, very different from 50 years ago — heck, from 20 years ago. In a time when feminism and womanism is at, perhaps, an all time high, and “Miss Independent” is everywhere you look, I think it only natural that the question arrises…
Should women pursue men? (more…)
Filed under: Stories, Think About It | Tags: Christians, embarrassed, God, GSU, love, protest
Walking through the “yard” (I use the quotes because I don’t know how much of a yard it can be without any grass) at GSU today there was some kind of rally/protest going on. It was kind of exciting being that it was my first in college, but certainly it wont be my last. Amidst the people I could see huge signs saying all kinds of things about what God hates and judgment and the like. Then on the other side I noticed people waving the rainbow equality flag and holding up signs about homosexuality and being treated fairly. As soon as I realized they were “my people” (as in Christians) I was a little disgusted. And honestly a little embarrassed too.
I only had one thought: Is that was Jesus would do? Would Jesus hold a protest and tell people all the things that were wrong with them? (more…)
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: anger, emotions, healthy, joy, love, men, Relationships
This is an open letter to all the men — especially the saved men — in America that are emotionally constipated.
The fact that you have difficulty expressing your emotions is, sadly, normal; it’s the standard because we live in a nation of emotionally constipated men. I know the term “constipated” doesn’t give you a great mental picture, it is quite appropriate for this topic. Men are stopped up; we don’t know how to properly process the events that occur in our lives and express the corresponding emotions. If you’ve ever been constipated you know that it’s painful — not a pleasant experience at all. In the case of emotional constipation, it doesn’t hurt the one who’s clogged as much as those around them. (more…)
Filed under: Relationships | Tags: Autumn, love, Relationships, Romance, Seasons
Fall is my favorite season of the year for one reason: the weather changes as it starts to get cooler. I thoroughly enjoy the nip in the air because it means I have the ability to integrate sweaters, layers, and jackets into the wardrobe; it just makes life so much more fun. But it can also make life a little more lonely if you don’t have a special *cough* friend *cough* in your life.
Fall also signifies the fact that the year’s end is drawing close. With the holidays looming near, the focus seems to shift from having carefree fun in the summa — summa — summertime onto the few holidays that are more traditionally reserved for the family. So what are the single folks — those who don’t have a typical family per se — to do? It’s time to find you a boo. At least that’s what I tend to do. (more…)
Filed under: Relationships, Uncategorized | Tags: complicated, friends, love, Relationships, women
Girl, I love you.
Yes, I have a lot of female friends. I know you knew that before we got together, but lately, I think you’re starting to see it differently. You’re starting to second guess things. I know you wonder if I look at them the same way I do you; if they take priority over you. You want to know what makes you different. And I want to tell you.
If I wanted to be with them I would. I don’t. I think of them as sisters. And I’m not in to incest. You are so much more. You’re my girl. My woman. My lady. My potential wife. (more…)
Filed under: My Life..., Relationships | Tags: apology, hurt, life, love, maxwell, pain, pretty wings, Relationships, sorry, wife, women
I realize I have done some things I should not have. I owe you an apology. Somehow, Maxwell’s “Pretty Wings” seems incredibly appropriate for right now.
Time will bring the real end of our trial. One day there’ll be no remnants, no trace no residual feelings within ya. One day you won’t remember me.
Your face will be the reason I smile, but I will not see what I cannot have forever. I’ll always love ya; I hope you feel the same
Although he said it well, I could never let another man speak for me completely.
I played with your emotions. I knew what I was doing. I’m sorry. I just didn’t know the extent to which you were really feeling me. I knew you liked me. And I liked you. We had chemistry. I got caught up. My intent was not to lead you on or to hurt you, regardless of how you perceived it. I don’t want to hurt anyone, much less those close to me. (more…)
Filed under: Mind Flush, My Life..., Relationships, Think About It | Tags: black, culture, dating, interracial relations, love, marriage, race, slavery, white
I read a highly intriguing article today entitled: Black Women: White Men Are Not Looking To Wife Most Of You. I always love reading articles from people who I don’t agree with because it pushes and expands my knowledge. It forces me to think about what I believe and why. Below is my response to the article.
I am a white man & I’m attracted to black women. I’m also attracted to white women, Latino women, and occasionally an Asian woman. I’m not into black women because it’s some sort of fetish or because I want to “relive the days of slavery.” It just happens that a lot of the characteristics and qualities I desire in women, are encompassed in those whose have an African American ancestry. (more…)