Filed under: Mind Flush, My Life... | Tags: blog, disclaimer, facebook, friendship, honesty, twitter
I feel a little like I’ve been neglecting my blog since school has started on August 17th. I’ve also been blogging at another site, Elev8.com, which is owned by Radio One and while it’s been fun blogging there, it’s definitely a different crowd than here. Y’all get the more transparent, honest, side of me over here. They get the more Christian, spiritual side of me. I’m going to try not to post the same articles in both places, but occasionally will.
I wanted to write this post for 2 reasons: to let you know I still care about my readers and to give all those who know me in “real life” my disclaimer. For some reason, I feel like I need to give folks a disclaimer as to what they’re getting into when they converse with me> It’s really more for them than it is for me.I want them to know what to expect from me. The reason I feel this applicable to discuss now is due to a conversation and ensuing drama I had to deal with last night because of a tweet and Facebook status update. (more…)
Filed under: Mind Flush, My Life... | Tags: encouragement, God, honesty, questions, rejection, Relationships
I’ve been very lazy with my relationship with God lately. Honestly, I’ve backslidden. I haven’t had drastic moral failures, but in any relationship you’re either moving forward or backward. I was moving backward with Him. I haven’t been spending time with Him like I should and I couldn’t figure out why.
So I had a very honest conversation with Him. I rambled about how I felt and about my fears in life. What I wanted, what I thought I needed, and how I was angry with Him. I told Him how I didn’t see Him working in my life and the confusion that was causing. I was as open as honest as I could have been. At the end of our conversation (or rather my rambling), I still hadn’t heard Him speak, so I simply said, “God, why do I not have as close of a relationship with you as I should?” (more…)
Filed under: Relationships, Think About It | Tags: honesty, lies, marriage, maury, secrets, trust, TV
I rarely watch “The Maury Show” but I was flipping through the channels and stumbled across a “headline” that caught my attention: “Husband Keeps 3 Secrets From Psychic Wife” I thought, like you probably did, “Shouldn’t she haven’t seen it coming? She is psychic, right?” I continued watching the show and found 3 valuable lessons in the midst of the chaos which I’ll discuss over this 3-part series.
The show went on to reveal that while the couple had been together for over 15 years with 5 kids (and they had made a previous appearance) and that the husband had gotten 2 new women pregnant. They were 8 and 6 months pregnant with his children. He had also been moonlighting as a stripper (for men and women) for the last 10 or so years. What does this teach us? (more…)
Filed under: My Life..., Relationships | Tags: advice, direction, honesty, learn, mistakes, Relationships, respect
I was asked the other day, “How did you get into this situation?” That a great question. I think faults were made on both parts, but I’d be a fool to walk away from this situation without having learned anything. I don’t know that I learned anything I hadn’t already known. Rather the things already known were strongly reinforced.
How can you avoid making the same mistakes I did?
Know your intentions. Figure out what you want from the relationship. Don’t let the other person’s desires influence you. What do YOU want? Do you want a friendship? Do you want a dating relationship? Are you looking for a wife? A recreation buddy? Do you even know? I didn’t know. I should have thought about it far before I did. Once I figured it out & evaluated whether she could fill the role, we were so far down the wrong path it hurt to go backwards.
Intentions can change. There may be a situation where 2 friends are hanging out, having a good time with no strings (or intentions) attached and they suddenly “catch” feelings for each other. Feelings can develop over time and that’s fine. The foundation of any relationship must be friendship. Which is where my next point comes in… (more…)
Filed under: Mind Flush, Relationships, Think About It | Tags: appearance, Christians, dating, honesty, men, Proverbs, style, women
On Facebook, my friend, Chris, posted a note basically proposing that there were 2 types of women. You had the “Proverbs 31” woman, who may be all that and a bag of chips, but ain’t as fly as she could be. Then you had the “worldly” woman, who is seen all over the place. Fly, fine, and feminine. I had to make a comment and here it is:
Saved men are NOT blind. Men are visual beings. We all know this. The world DEFINITELY knows it; look at everything they put in our face. They’ve got the program down packed. Sex sells. Honestly, I feel like the church “asks” us to look past the physical in order to “find a good thing”. I will look past it, but I have to look AT it before I look PAST it. If the men should apologize for anything, it should be relying solely on looks and nothing else. (more…)