Filed under: Mind Flush, My Life..., Relationships, Think About It | Tags: black, culture, dating, interracial relations, love, marriage, race, slavery, white
I read a highly intriguing article today entitled: Black Women: White Men Are Not Looking To Wife Most Of You. I always love reading articles from people who I don’t agree with because it pushes and expands my knowledge. It forces me to think about what I believe and why. Below is my response to the article.
I am a white man & I’m attracted to black women. I’m also attracted to white women, Latino women, and occasionally an Asian woman. I’m not into black women because it’s some sort of fetish or because I want to “relive the days of slavery.” It just happens that a lot of the characteristics and qualities I desire in women, are encompassed in those whose have an African American ancestry.
Understandably, slavery has tarnished black-white relations in the US in a way you’ll find almost nowhere else. Look at Europe & African and I believe you’ll see that interracial relationships are not as big of an issue as they are here, in the States. Slavery was/is an indescribable travesty against everyone who was involved in any way, shape or form and a sadly permanent stain on America’s history.
I feel it’s unfair and close minded to hold it against me, a white man, when I had absolutely nothing to do with it. I would have changed it IF I could have! What’s done cannot be changed. If you’re going to hold all white men accountable, to this day, for the abomination we call slavery, you should also include your African ancestors who sold you into it.
Love is blind. Unfortunately, when it comes to color, people are not. We often look at the color of a couple before anything else and almost instinctively judge their reasoning for being together.
I don’t think a white person brings any more to the table than any black, Asian, or Latino person does. It’s all about personal preference and what you’re attracted to. Each ethnicity has a different cultural background that make them response to situations and circumstances the way they do.
To legislate who can marry who, and why, without decent reason is foolish. It’s unwise to put rules on who someone can be attracted to. You might stop a woman from being with the very man who could love and cherish her in a way no one else could. I think it’s a shame any time you let a few bad experiences tarnish your feelings towards an entire social group.
I will love, respect, honor and cherish my wife, regardless of what color, ethnicity, or creed she comes from. Period.
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